Let’s say you meet a guy, and everything starts off good, but soon red flags start showing up, but you brush it off. Because, after all, everyone has flaws, right? Plus, you’ve been single long enough, and you plan to be married by a certain age. But soon, all those “little” red flags turn into stop signs, and the stop signs turn into wrong-way signs, and the next thing you know, you find yourself speeding down the wrong side of the road, all because you felt like you were going to miss out on something if you decided to slow down.
Lessons Learned
That was me several years ago, and yes being in that situation did lead me into a crash, spiritually speaking, but by the grace of God, I’m still here, and He has restored me in so many ways. I came to the end of myself and realized that trying to fill the voids in my heart with the men of this world only left me disappointed, empty, and unsatisfied. When I began to cry out to the Lord and confide in Him, I finally understood that all of my needs and desires had already been met through Him. No man can fill the God-sized void in your heart except for God Himself. You must be content with being alone with God before you even think of letting someone new into your life so that when a man does come, your emotions won’t get in the way of what God is showing you about their character, and they won’t become an idol in your life. Remember, they can complement but not complete you. If you’re unsure about a particular relationship, don’t move forward with it until you have approval from the Lord. God will confirm it in different ways, which could be through people, tv shows, a song, or anything that He knows will get your attention. But if He says no to that person, trust it and move on. Disobedience leads to destruction.
“I know LORD, that our lives are not our own. We are not able to plan our own course. So, correct me, LORD, but please be gentle.
Jeremiah 10:23-24
Choosing to Move Forward
Know that if God wants something to happen, then nothing can stop that thing from coming to pass. If God doesn’t want something to happen, nothing can make it come to pass. God blocks certain things for a reason, and you need to trust that. It may hurt now, but imagine how much more hurt you would be in the future if you continued to ignore God’s warnings, then had to face the consequences of choosing to walk in disobedience. The longer you stay, the harder it is to let go. While you wait on the right person, don’t be idle, do your part and take care of whatever responsibilities God has given you during that particular season. You’ve come a long way, so let this be a gentle reminder that God can use pain and turn it into something beautiful later on down the line. Continue to allow God to work on your heart and keep your head up!
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